I read an article from JK Rowlings, another “single professional mom” where she said she didn’t want her daughter to be looked at as being raised in a less than favorable light.
I agree completely and more so I think my daughters actually have benefit in being my daughters for reasons that maybe don’t seem obvious.
First, we all know that values can not be taught in households that don’t promote them, this is whether there is two parents or one parent in the home.
Second my daughters through no fault of their own have had to learn that sometimes life brings hardships and stresses. I hope for the most part they see this as it affects me and not them. It isn’t what I would want them to see in me, but I’ve come to peace, understanding that children themselves understand much more than we might want them to, and more than anything children learn from who we are NOT from what we say we are.
The lesson that life has twists and turns and we have to do our best to react and rebuild is a key lesson of success that now at a very early age, both my daughters have learned.
Last, one of the most important lessons my girls have benefited from is the lesson that no matter what, through all the changes in their life, with all the ups and downs, through moving from one end of the country to the next, my daughters have learned that my love has never waivered, my care for them has never lessened. They have learned that our family, less one person, is still solid and strong as ever.
They have learned this lesson of love as I have liken it to a very small fraction of how much God loves us all. Of this lesson I’m certain they have benefited!