- Why I think I’m a better parent because I’m a working mom
- It takes a village AND a well built network to help care for your children (mother’s network)
Tips for organizing and getting your kids ready for back to school:
As we get ready for school beginning this week, all our energies are towards one word….. this our last weekend until it all starts again….
I’m excited for this time of year, the deadline of starting school this week, drives all my overdue organization tasks.
One of these tasks is to have my girls go through all their clothes and find those clothes that they have out grown. Typically we do this 3 times a year, once before school starts, once when school ends for the summer and the last time sometime around December or January to move in winter clothes.
This year we left for summer vacation early in May, so we didn’t clean out our dressers, so this afternoon we started this task.
Second, we review and filter through to organize school supplies for homework and extra study. We use pages from our last summer workbooks for “extra study” throughout the year. We find all our highlighters, pens, colored pencils and other supplies and get them “ready” and separated by type.
Last, we’re back on schedule with our bedtime sleep routines and we have been working to trying to keep our meal times more consistent with school, but mainly we have been talking about getting back into school and all that involves, in terms of my expectations for them and their own expectations of themselves. We have talked about what awards they want to achieve this new year and how they will go about it.
My children are “organizing” their minds!
For me, the word “organization” is a great thing!
I will be talked about my book: “Never Drink Coffee During a Business Meeting” with the Good Things Utah hosts in advance of my book signing event at Barnes and Noble in Murray, UT on July 29th and did more in depth discussion on traveling with kids tips for the vacation time.
My book Never Drink Coffee during a Business Meeting is a business book which gives advice to people both entering corporate America and it provides tips to people in order to advance in their current career. As an employer for over 20 years, my mentoring of my employees has translated into my deliberate parenting of my children.
In discussed my book with Emily Clark and I had some timely #MomTips for this summer’s traveling, based on my life experiences.
First maybe we should look at what “better” means. It does NOT mean “better” than any other parent. It does NOT mean I’m a better parent than my parents, who by the way I believe are great parents.
I learned long ago that it never pays to compare any part of who you are to others. So as a parent I subscribe to this concept and my yearly goal as a parent, now 11 years is to be a “better” parent than I was last year.
So I feel not only am I a better parent due to time and lessons learned while doing “the job” as parent. I also believe I am a better parent BECAUSE I am a single working parent.
Let me explain, as an engineer for really all of my career, when you implement a new VoIP platform for a client you use your frame of reference from past installations to guide you to success, however with all new platforms or technology solutions may come together in a new ways. So this challenge stretches you to really understand the new technology, how it operates, how it was put together on a base level and really understand how you can take your current expertise and maximize not just institute new capability and features for your clients.
Back to parenting, I feel that each year my challenge is to understand my daughters better in this new and changing world, environment, climate and community. Because I take my job as parent as the most important part of my life, I have evolved to apply how I tackle my career goals and aspirations to succeed in parenting. I’ve learned research into their physical and mental development at their given ages is key and exchange of information among other parents with same aged children is important.
I believe as a single parent, the entire parenting responsibility is left to me, so therefore I believe this makes me a “better” parent year to year only because I step up to this responsibility that I take very seriously!
Yesterday I was thrilled when I overheard my nine year old telling her friend she hadn’t seen for a while that she isn’t allowed to listen to anything other than Christian music on Sunday.
She told it in a very matter of fact sort of way with no inflection whatsoever, like this was a rule from the dawn of time sent down from God or something.
Hearing this I was grinning from ear to ear and tried very hard to contain my enthusiasm not entirely because this was a rule I was fond of, but more because of the manner that for her, what I’ve repeated time and time again was now just a part of who she was at least on Sundays.
I’m not here to say that once I “institute” a rule for my children they obey with immediate obedience, this would be a lie. I’m here to say that when challenged on rules or behaviors I employ, I stick to my guns. When my daughters challenge me I explain the purpose for the rules in terms they can understand. I also believe that perhaps my delivery of said rules might have something to do with the fact I let them know very clearly that this is not negotiable.
Another way I’m able to communicate rules or behaviors is by explaining the negative outcome in a way they can understand “IF” these rules aren’t followed “WHAT” might happen. For instance a couple of years ago my daughters weren’t always wearing their seat belts without my reminding them to do so. This was an easy solution I made it is point to amplify each car accident where there was a seatbelt issue. This is a pretty simple example understandably but I’m sure you get the point.
I believe in the end just like any new habit is formed if you repeat and repeat and then repeat again, this new habit will stick. I liken this to raising children the way you wish them to be brought up.